connected to the grand scheme of things

At any time in our journey through life, any of us can feel the need for friendship, special friends, companionship, the closeness of a warm body, the warmth of somebody who cares for and about us.

We can be in the most wonderful of relationships and still find moments of emptiness, or be without a lover or 'significant other' and yet be so at one with ourselves that we feel connected to the grand scheme of things; part of the wholness and wonder of everything.

In the midst of pleasure, there can be pain. In the midst of pain, we can still be delighted by a sunset, or a child's laughter, or fabulous sex with someone whom we might never see again.

The supportive words of a friend or even a stranger can give us new insights, raise our awareness and raise our game.

My beliefs and values ensue from my work over many years that has made it clear to me that, as long our relationships are based on the beleif that we must depend on others in order to feel good ourselves, the relationship is probably doomed.

Oh, it may last, but it will probably lack zest, vibrancy, joy and integrity.

That deadness, sadly and understandably, is a price that many people are willing to pay rather than be alone - not least because they don't know how to be alone or they don't like themselves very much!